The Five People You Spend the Most Time With

I was once told, "You become like the five people you spend the most time with."  Think about that for a moment...

Who are your top five?
How does being with them make you feel?  Empowered? or Drained?
What do you talk about?
Have they accomplished or are currently working on their dreams?
How do they treat others outside your group? Do they back stab and gossip or do they try to uplift others?
What is their personal code of ethics?
Do they whine and moan about all the bad things in their lives or do they roll up their sleeves and start making changes?

My next question is...
How do YOU act when you are among them?
Do you let your own unique light shine or do you tune your energy to theirs in order to fit in?

Redheads, we have huge energy potential. It comes with our dynamic personalities. It can be positive or negative. You must choose which one it will be.  Now, you all know part of my story. I was born to be a redhead, but you also know that I had to work to own it.  Here is a secret. Did you know that anyone can decide to be a redhead. Let me say that again...

ANYONE CAN DECIDE TO BE A REDHEAD!!!

Yes, it's true.  It's all in the energy you put out.  And the first step is to surround yourself with people who truly care about you. The ones who lift you up and encourage your dreams.  The ones who do instead of talk.  These people come from a place of love not just for you but for people in general.  They are not saints but they get up everyday and try to do their best and try to find the blessing or lesson in the worst of circumstances.

When you spend time with people you begin to synchronize to their energy and they to yours.  That energy can either propel you forward or hold you like quicksand.  Which would you prefer?  If you find that you need to start changing the energy of your group then start with the intention to meet new people.  Talk to people who come into your path.  Even if you only talk to them one time, notice how they made you feel.  Learn from it.  Emulate the ones with whom you felt good being around and avoid those that make you feel heavy, or drained.

One of my early examples was a friend of mine in Italy named Rosie.  She was a beautiful woman about my age with raven black hair and sky blue eyes. She always reminded me of Snow White. She and I spent a fair amount of time together and one day she asked me to go to the beach with her and her two daughters.  It was early in the season so even though the air was warm, the water was still pretty cold.  That didn't stop the two young girls.  They stripped down to their bathing suites and ran straight for the water without hesitating and jumped right in.  They called to Rosie and me to watch as they played like mermaids in the frigid water.  Jokingly, I called back. "You're crazy!!" Rosie yelled, "How brave you are!!"  I looked at the woman who sat beside me feeling ashamed.  I realized in that moment, that even though I was joking, the comment was basically still full of negativity.  Her comment lifted her children up and would encourage them not only in this instance but also in the next one that might be a little challenging.  I have never used that phrase since and it also made me start noticing how negativity crept into my life.