Success is NOT a battle of will power.

Can we talk a minute? I’m wondering, how many of you are self-changers. A self-changer is one of those amazing people who sees something within themselves that they want to change such as losing weight, starting a business, stop smoking etc. then takes the bull by the horns to make it happen.  Tell me, did the change happen fast or slow? Did you succeed the first time or the fifteenth? Was the change permanent or did you revert back to the way things were?

The reason I’m asking is because I spent the evening at a sales meeting for a direct marketing company. It was a marvelously energetic and positive event. But what struck me was that even though I was in a room of motivated self-changers; there was a lot of talk about making a shift and “being committed even when it wasn’t convenient,” but what I found out was the company was all for succeeding but fell short of teaching anything beyond a strategy of action steps. Not once in the whole night did they address what to do when you had the list of steps but for whatever reason, you just aren’t getting them done. They talked about the fact that 80% of success is what’s going on in your head, yet no one knew how to get past those negative thoughts that plague the average self-changer. Their solution was just to knuckle down and do it anyway.  Beat the negative thoughts into submission.

The ones who sought the help to effect change went to self-help books and spent excruciating hours reading and rereading before they got the concept. But also admitted the next day that there was a huge difference between the concept and actually doing it. They finally succeeded after many tries. Ugh!! How discouraging is that?

You know what, this is all well and good, but I have to tell you that these changes won’t be permanent. This behavioral yo-yoing is why people lose momentum in their direct marketing businesses…or in any goal for that matter. For example, how many diets have you been on? How many times did you succeed only to gain the weight back again? The reason for this is that you didn’t explore the sabotaging self-talk going on in your head as you implemented your action plan. You assumed that shear will power would be enough.  When the truth is, that change should never be a fight. When done properly, it will feel like a flower blooming in your soul. It might be physically or mentally challenging, but it should never be a battle of your will to achieve.

Here’s what I think.  Find a self-help book or system you like but also hire me as your life coach to help you reach your goal.  The strategies in the book may be just what you’re looking for. However, I specialize in self-sabotage. I’ll be a partner to teach you how to get out of your head. I bring to your attention the subconscious thoughts that you unknowingly spout out of your mouth. The thoughts that appear logical and rational but are actually wrecking your chances of success. I teach you to identify them and what to do to change them.  What I teach you will make new habits stick so that you can duplicate success with every goal you set.

As a self- changer you have to be diligent in tackling the steps to your goal. When you go at it alone, how often do you give yourself an excuse for not doing what you set out to do then blame it on the kids, the job, the spouse… You know what, you are perfectly normal. But lets be honest, you do waste a lot of time in fiddle farting around don’t you? With me as your coach, Several things will happen as you go through the steps to your goal. First, I will be there to encourage you. Second, I will hold you accountable to the tasks you set for your goal. And last, I will be there to celebrate every win along the way. How much faster do you think you will reap the rewards of success with those qualities in your corner?

If you are serious about the success of your goal, a life coach is a necessary part of your success team.  Once you and I bring clarity to your thoughts, the changes will happen organically.  They will become a permanent part of you, a part of you that you will love.  And with someone to keep you on track with encouragement and positive accountability, you’ll be at your goal with lightning speed without the internal struggle we all go through when faced with change.  Give yourself every chance to succeed. Hire Miracles Within Life and Empowerment Coaching